Gaymers “boys who like boys who like joysticks” (or girls who like girls who like buttons)
First off, I would say that a normalization is taking place. There is a Gaymer con which is apparently widely known within the queer community. Anna Anthropy (who programed Dys4ia) wrote a text based adventure spoof on Star Wars called Search for the Gay Planet. While the game is an amusing spoof, It brings up a valid point: where are the non heteronormative characters!? With Gaymers out roaming the mean streets of MMOs, perhaps it will become less common to see gay bashing and casual homophobia.
I can say with almost complete certainty that everyone has at least heard of the casual homophobia that is rampant in MMOs. Whether in in Halo or in WOW, it is very hard to escape jibes of “you’re so gay” or “suck my dick”. It leads me to wonder if the culture of the MMO community actually promote casual homophobia? Probably. I mean the huge and well documented presence of rape culture and casual gay bashing by players would lead me to believe so. That being said, where then is the place for “Gaymers” within this usually hostile environment? The answer is EVERYWHERE.
There’s a surprisingly vibrant community of these self identified “gaymers.” There are conferences, at least 20 different websites dedicated to this one aspect of Queer culture. More than I was necessarily expecting. Although Gaymers are usually men, there is also an increasing lesbian presence within game culture which is bound to change the way gaming communities use language (especially when hating on others). It will, with any luck, become unacceptable to call someone gay because, well they are. In other words, it isn’t very creative or hurtful to insult someone with what they actively identify as.